Created to Serve

Our Design and Our Example
Pages 142-145

It's time to take a look at another lie we are tempted to believe about marriage. This lie suggests that we women have a right to expect our husbands to serve us.

23. The Lie: My husband is supposed to serve me.

The Truth: God made the woman to be a helper to man.

Genesis 2:18-22, "And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.' Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them, And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field.

But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

And Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into woman, and He brought her to the man."

The Following is Truth! But let someone else point it out to your husband...

While it's true that woman was created to be man's "helper," it does not mean that men are not to serve their wives and children. If men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church, there must be the willingness to lay down their lives and become servants, even as Christ did for His bride.

Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her."

The Truth: If I expect to be served, I will often be disappointed. If I seek to serve others, without expecting anything in return, I will never be disappointed.

I Corinthians 13:4, "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up."

The Truth: We are never more like Jesus than when we are serving others.

John 13:5, "After that, He poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet, and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded."

The Fundamental Issue

Do you have a willingness to trust God and to place yourself under His authority?