Lies Women Believe About Marriage

And the Truth That Sets Them Free

Pages 135-142

I know you would agree that nowhere is it more challenging to walk in the Truth than inside the four walls of our own homes. Chapter six deals with the topic of marriage. Both married women and unmarried women struggle with the first lie in tis chapter, which equates having a husband to being happy in life.

Often, single women think that they must get married before they can be happy, and married women think that their husband's purpose in life is to make them happy. Both are lies.

Join me as we delve into the Scriptures, because it is only there that we can find the Truth of the matter!

21. The Lie: I have to have a husband to be happy.

The Truth: Happiness is not found in (or out of) marriage.

James 1:16-17, "Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning."

The Truth: There is no person who can meet my deepest needs. No one and nothing can make me truly happy, apart from God.

Psalm 62:5, "My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him."

The Truth: Those who wait on the Lord always get His best. Those who insist on getting what they want often end up with heartache.

Psalm 37:4, "Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart."

What is the Truth About Marriage?

The truth is that marriage is good and right, that it is God's plan for most people, and that there can (and ought to) be great joy and blessing in the context of a God-centered marriage. Satan twists the Truth about marriage by suggesting to women that the purpose of marriage is personal happiness and fulfillment.

Again, the Truth is that the ultimate purpose of marriage is not to make us happy. The ultimate purpose of marriage is to glorify God.

22. The Lie: It is my responsibility to change my mate.

The Truth: A godly life and prayer are a wife's two greatest means of influencing her husband's life.

James 5:16, "Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous [woman] avails much."

The Truth: It is far more effective for a woman to appeal to the Lord to change her husband than to try to exert pressure on him directly.

Proverbs 17:1, "Better is a dry morsel with quietness, than a house full of feasting with strife."

Proverbs 19:13b, "The contentions of a wife are a continual dripping."

We as Christians wives are inclined to fix something that is broken. In other words, if something is wrong and we perceive that it is our husbands, then we want to fix him. But thinking that it is our responsibility to change him invariably leads to frustration and conflict.

So, What Do I Do?

Instead, we must realize and we have two powerful "weapons" available to each one of us that are far more effective than nagging, whining, or preaching.

The first weapon is a godly life, which God often uses in a man's life to create conviction and spiritual hunger (see 1 Peter 3:1-4)

The second weapon is prayer. When a wife consistently points out the things she wishes her husband would change, she is likely to make him defensive and resistant.

However, when she takes her concerns to the Lord, she is appealing to a high power to act in her husband's life - and it's a lot harder for a man to resist God than to resist a nagging wife!